You seem to be past the stage where counseling would be an option. Physical violence is a clear sign of serious deep-seated mental and/or emotional problems. You mentioned the military. Have you spoken with anyone in his command? I do not know if you live on post or off, but that is a matter to be considered. You should at a minimum be in contact with an experienced divorce attorney in the area. He or she can guide you through this tangled legal mess. I hope you do not fear drive your actions, but instead the hope of a better life for all involved.
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As long as there are no divorce or child custody court orders in place already, you can leave for MN with the child if you are in fear or if you are happy and content. Generally, all questions dealing with divorce, custody and child support would have to be answered in the Savannah courts until you have been gone for six months, then MN takes over. If he files something in Savannah before the 6 months then Georgia would have jurisdiction over the case.
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