I’m engaged and straight my former boss is openly gay and he was a awesome boss in the beginning then as he hired more people of different relationships preferences I felt harassment and judged . I felt verbally attacked and when I calmly mentioned something to my former boss he said I was being dramatic . I’m a good worker I showed up when needed stayed when a no show person bailed and asked or offered to work on my days off to make up for time off for a dr appointment. Now I’m having a hard time finding a good job. I do have a job but it sucks . I want to apologize for my part ( getting upset over lack of communication and walking off the job) how do I go about doing this to hopefully get on his good side so I can get my old job back.. any advice from you or anyone would be appreciated.. thank you
You may have had a case developing until you walked off the job. Had the harassment been extremely severe, then you might have a constructive discharge claim. If nothing real tangible or adverse happened to you as a result of you complaining about discrimination then it doesn’t sound like much of a case. Your question here is less legal and more practical. Just go apologize and ask for your job back.
You are probably in a better position than anyone else to know how to best communicate with this specific individual. Legally, there is no requirement for them to take you back, but if you had a good prior relationship, I would just try to reach out in a very conciliatory manner and see how receptive he is to that.
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The fact that you are willing to take responsibility for your part in a conflict speaks volumes about who you are and what kind of employee you can be. As Mr. Ricotta mentioned, your former employer isn't required to take you back, of course, but being transparent and authentic might be very persuasive. You question is how. Right?
There's no exact formula, and you don't want to be too scripted. These conversations can be difficult, yet powerfully bonding. Maybe start with the apology. An effective apology acknowledges your action and includes a promise to take different action in the future. For example, you might say: "I am sorry I got so upset and walked off the job. That isn't who I am, and I realize how that must have left you. I really enjoyed working for you, and I regret my decision to leave, especially in the way that I did. If you would consider taking me back, I promise you that I am learning to manage my reactions and this will not happen again. I will discuss my concerns with you privately and professionally, and I will work with you to create a really great workplace for us and our co-workers." (Obviously, use your own words and allow yourself to speak from where you are in the moment. This is just to get you started.)
Good luck, and congratulations on taking a huge step toward bigger success in your life--regardless of how this goes!
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