10yr marriage. husband caught cheating 3 other times. 4 years cheat free (as far as i knew). signed papers to begin IVF. week after i started medications for IVF, caught him in a lie, just as the other times he was caught. and again, said didn't love me anymore, yet there was no one else. i now have proof there is someone else. he has new phone we just got 2 months ago, and i'm stuck with the early $200 cancel fee and the $600 phone cost. i have to move, apt in his name. yet he is the one who cheated. we were ocurtesy staff at apt and got a 45% discount on rent. now, i cant afford to live alone. plus i have other expenses i'm left with. i have her phone # and picture. and i'm devastated he did this again, right when i start trying for baby. (so add those expenses too).
You may always file for divorce and include the costs you've outlined as part of your complaint. Those costs will either be negotiated as part of the divorce settlement agreement or the Court will rule on the issues, if the parties cannot reach an agreement.
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You do not have to move out immediately. Before you make any decisions, consult with a local family law attorney. You can find one using the Find A Lawyer tab here on Avvo. With your attorney's help, you can formulate a plan to help you support yourself on your own (and under your facts...potential support from your adulterous husband).
You can pursue a separation agreement or a lawsuit seeking equitable distribution and possibly alimony. You do not need to move just because your husband asks you to. You can find a local attorney here on AVVO to learn alot more detail about your rights.
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You can file for divorce and request alimony for once the divorce is finalized, and post separation support until the divorce is final. In addition you can request attorney fees to cover the costs. Additionally, part of the debts you incurred during the course of your marriage can be distributed between both of you during equitable distribution.
You should probably seek an attorney to discuss your options.
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