You can lead a horse to water . . . .
She may never get it. The thing to do si get this matter back into court -- you'll have to go through mediation to get there -- and make it known to the court what is going on.
It sounds like her actions amount to abuse. You need to act for your child's well-being.
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Try mediation, and if that doesn't work, get the matter into court.
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