You are in a tough spot because D.S.S. is involved. If her current placement satisfies D.S.S. and is family, I would think that you would have a very difficult time getting custody of the 14 year old. It doesn't have anything to do with you being in a wheelchair, it's just that D.S.S. is set up to limit the amount of transitions a child goes through as much as possible and give preference to family placement. If you can contact a local attorney who is familiar with D.S.S. and family law, that would be a great place to get some advice.
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