Get an experienced lawyer involved immediately. If there are likely to be criminal charges, I suggest hiring a criminal lawyer to deal with the DA and the police. Getting this done on your own won't happen.
I am not intending this to be legal advice, because I don't know the particulars of your situation. Call me if you would like to discuss this or other isues.
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