My son is 11 and has seen his father 2 times last 2 years and still not this year. He has rarely exercised his visitation rights in11 years. My son has never celebrated a holiday, birthday, summer or spring break with his father. Nor has father acknowledged these special occasions. His fathers family has never even sang happy birthday to him. My son does not want to go and I think he should have that choice now. He knows that his Dad has chosen not to be around. I just received a visitation schedule and not making him go. When is it considered unhealthy for a nonreliable father to be in a childs life?Also, no $ for attorney, Dad is also owes $6000 in arrears.