It's not up to your husband to "grant" you a divorce. Contact the court where the divorce was filed and ask the clerk's office how to set a trial date. Make sure it's a date when you know you'll be able to attend and make sure your husband gets notice of the trial date. Let the clerk's office know that it is a DV situation so your address stays confidential (if it's currently confidential). On the trial date, the judge will grant the divorce and deal with financial issues. If the husband fails to appear for trial, too bad for him. The court will grant the divorce anyway and will have no choice but to grant you the relief you are seeking from the court.
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