My ex-husband recently got laid off from his job and has to move his retirement money elsewhere. On that retirement account I have a joinder from our divorce so that I would get half his retirement. There is no ill-will or any problems with him, we have an agreement for when he pulls it out. I just need to know how to release his retirement account so he can pull it out and give me my share.I just want to release his retirement. I don't have the money to pay to get the QDRO done and we've both agreed that he'll give me my fair share, which I know will come with penalties for pulling it out early. I just need to know where I can get the Release Joinder and file it to get it off his 401K. I have spoken to the 401K company and they have just said I need to file a Release Joinder.