You seem to have a lot of questions, and they are all related. No one here is going to be able to give you anything but general advice, and likely that advice would be to consult a local family law attorney. There are always two sides to every story. The judge would look at various factors in deciding the distribution of property and custody arrangements.
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You cannot find the answers to all of your questions here. Based on your questions, it is clear that your case is complicates - mental health issues and property division. Given that you should speak to an attorney in your area In order to gain the best advice.
I am sorry that things have been difficult for you. If you feel that your spouse is mentally ill you can assemble her medical records (where appropriate) and other evidence that shows her mental state. This is usually best done by an experienced attorney for several reasons, the introduction of medical/mental status evidence is difficult and sometimes inadmissable, and you are very close to this case which will make it extremely hard for you to be objective. I hope things work out for you and I wish you and your children all the best. take good care.
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