My daughter is almost two years old, and her father has seen her 6 times in her entire life (that includes the time he was at the hospital whenever she was born.) He has never paid a dime of child support, nor helped support her in any other way. His family kicked him out and I’m unsure where he is living but I know he has been moving around the past few months from couch to couch with some mutual friends. He was also recently arrested for driving an unregistered vehicle with no insurance. I’ve tried to contact him 9 times since September about custody and I have received no answers. I’m engaged and about to get married and would love for my fiancé to adopt her once we are married. Since I’m not receiving communication back is there a way to prove he is unfit? I’m terrified of taking him to court and a judge making me share custody since she has never been away from me.
You are in a tough position. Your fiance cannot adopt your daughter without the consent of the Father. Thus, you must find him and bring him into a court action no matter what. You are correct to worry that he would likely get some timesharing in the event you or he filed a paternity matter. If he seems to want to avoid all financial responsibility, the adoption might appeal to him, as it is the only thing that would relieve him of all financial responsibility, placing that entirely upon your fiance. Attempting to meet with him somewhere to request that he execute the statutory consent for adoption might be an option. I strongly suggest that you and your fiance meet with a family law attorney. Good luck to you.
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