My ex - wife and I split on a friendly basis , and I trusted her and her attorney to come up with a fair resolution . Our salaries are both about 50k . We share custody of our 10 and 8 year old daughters . They spend 3 nights with me , 4 with her . I pick them up at the bus stop daily by working early hours and save us both hundreds in day care expenses . She's technically the " custodial parent " as I didn't want to fight that knowing that having my kids half the time was my only priority and didn't want to ruin that . Why do I have to hand over $ 840 to her per month ? Its been 7 years and I am tired of living like a bum , while she lives like a queen and can afford yearly Euro vacations , a nice house , etc . What do I have to do to make this FULLY 50 / 50 ?Sorry, "SYN" was supposed to read "NYS" as in New York State. Also, if it makes a difference...her attorney "forgot" to file our divorce papers, and finally says that we should be officially divorced now. After 7 years. Not sure if I can get back some of my pay due to the fact that we weren't even divorced. Not my goal, but will take what I can get.