My best friend/ ex girlfriend got pregnant by a man she wasn't serious with. Since she was 2 months pregnant I have been the care provider for our daughter. I know I'm not the biological father,but the actual BF doesn't want anything to do with the child. My daughter has only ever known me as her father for the first two years of her life. I and the mother wants my name on the unsigned birth certificate, and her last name changed to mine. I want to put what's already known on paper for protection of me and my families interest. I don't think it'll ever become hostile between me and her mother but I want to be safe.
The court has the authority to allow an adoption. However, since each state has their own system and rules you have to check with an Ohio lawyer to see if you qualify. You will have to show that your relationship will last for a period of time and, you know as well as I do, that a couple of months is not a very long time to make a lifelong commitment by you or to have the state approve you talking a child.
Anyway, talk to an adoption attorney when you get the chance.
I agree with the prior answer that every State has different requirements for this type of case. In Florida where I practice the Judge will need to get either a Consent from the actual father or you will need to terminate his rights. A Consent will be much cheaper. Assuming you can get a Consent the Judge will also want to know if you are ready to undertake the responsibilities of the care of a child until that reaches the age of majority. Best of luck to you.
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I am not so sure that in Ohio judge would allow a boyfriend to adopt the child of the biological father without the boyfriend becoming the husband of the child's mother. There is a desire to keep a child stable 2 parents contributing to the financial well-being and emotional well-being of the child. That is more likely to happen with a stepparent then an ex-boyfriend. People's minds change over the years. You might find someone that you want to marry and you might become a father to biological children of your own. Are you going to still want to shell out money for this child who may not even be living close to you, anymore? And what if your ex-girlfriend marries someone else who wants you excluded from this child's life? If they put up a barrier to you visiting this child, are you still going to want to pay for his support? If you are dead set on this, talk to a local lawyer here on Avvo. I am not overly optimistic, however, about your success in achieving your goal.
I admire your desire to be a parent to this child, but getting a judge to sign off on adopting an ex-girlfriend's child will be a major challenge. You should sit down with an adoption attorney and talk this through.
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