the judge was shocked on how a sudden my ex chose a half pay job for pilot after retirement with his high qualifications and abilities. In order to not pay me and force me to go working with ( Gavron warning code) even after our length marriage and code family 4320, I feel so in disgust to not being able to re educate myself to find a suitable career and so scared I won't have support soon or later and been forced to pick any job there is then.
His reason for me to work too is so our daughter will be put to school finally as he does not agree on me homeschooling our child I have done all her life now..8 years plus.
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I know you do not want to hear it, but it sounds like you need to seek employment. It is the policy of California for parties to eventually be self sufficient, and not dependent on spousal support for the rest of their lives.
It's possible that your support payments may decrease, especially with your ex's recent retirement, but it may be possible to request that the Court calculate support based upon his earning capacity, rather than his actual income. Seek an attorney to help you with this request - it is tricky.
Make a reasonable effort to find out what employment is available to you, and what education and training you need to get other employment available to you. Keep good records. Though I understand that you wish to continue to home-school your child, you also have an obligation to contribute to your child's support, and to support yourself. What would you and the child do if, tomorrow, your ex vanished, along with any support from him?
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