Speak to an attorney licensed to practice in your state. I'd also try to speak with a couple of managers at the DMV to impress upon them how ridiculous it is that they aren't changing your name even though SS already has. Absent that, I would assume that if you can't modify your divorce decree, you could still apply to legally change your name back to your maiden name.
Lots of luck to you, I hope this case works out in your favor.
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If the final decree did not order a name change, then legally your name remains your married name even if you could convince DDS to change it. It could come back to haunt you if you don't pursue the legal name change.
If an attorney somehow dropped the ball, then your best bet may be to contact them first to see if they can assist you. If not, then you need to file the proper paperwork in your county of residence. Filing fees are generally in the $200 - $250 range and notice must be published for four weeks, usually costing $80.
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Eric's answer to you is simply legally incorrect.
Under Georgia law, you retain your married name unless you ask for restoration in the divorce. The only way to change it now is to file a name change case. My office does handle these for a reasonable fee so feel free to call me to discuss the costs.
You made a bad mistake with Social Security (which should NOT have changed your name without a decree). The Georgia DDS (we no longer have a DMV) cross checks license records with SS records on a regular basis. When they find the mismatch, you will be sent a notice that your drivers license is suspended. So act quickly.
It's unfortunate that you did not have counsel to tell you to ask for a name change in the divorce (it would have been free). The good news is that it isn't all that costly now. Don't wait for your license suspension.
Your only options are 1) pay the filing and publication fees or 2) request that the court waive the fees. Because of the simplicity of adult name changes, an attorney would not be required; though most would be rather affordable. Regardless, you will HAVE to either obtain a court order ASAP or correct your SS card back to your currently legal name (your married name) until a legal name change is granted.
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