My son is 6 yrs old. His biological father has been abscent for 4.5yrs. He had only visited a total of 36 hours in that time frame. We have no parenting plan and he has paid child support without court orders. My son doesn’t know who he is when he has visited. And knows my fiancé as his dad who has been playing the father role for 3.5yrs who also would like to adopt him. There is zero consistency with his biological father and only visits at most for 2 hours. He has gone a consecutive year when we first split with zero visits as well as another 2yrs up until this past August with zero visits. He has been to multiple rehabs and a restraining order was in my place when we first split. What can I do? It’s not fair for my son to have some guy walk in and out of his life as he pleases. I have never denied a visit which I’m slowly regretting until recently as my son understand more now and it’s too confusing for him.
Chances are low unless he consents and a court agrees it should be done. He has shown at least a glimmer of interest because he has paid some support, and did so voluntarily. Chances are better he will consent to having your fiancé adopt him and he won't have to pay child support. So it may be that going to court and seeking court ordered child support might goad him into consenting to an adoption if you boyfriend will agree. Otherwise, its an uphill fight. Best if luck with it.
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