You need to speak to an experienced attorney, and take all the steps necessary to get your divorce DONE, so that your pension doesn't end up frozen; alternatively you should speak to your pension administrator and find out if you can start collecting your pension BEFORE you get the dissolution completed.
You should get advice from an experienced family law attorney. You need to find out the status of your divorce case. Was he served? You may need to join the pension in the divorce case.
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