I am a victim of domestic violence. I have a son with my ex boyfriend and my son has his last name. I am trying to change my sons last name to mine. I had to went to court and the judge said that i most likely wont be able to get his last name changed. How can i push to get my sons last name to mine? My ex boyfriend was never around while I was pregnant, never went to doctors appointments but 3, wasn't there for the birth of my son and while we were living together he would only spend 20 minutes the most with him all day. He is mentally unstable and he is also trying to change my restraining order so he can get visitation with my son. I don't want him around my son. What do I do?