How can I enforce our custody judgement for vacation if my ex said she’s taking them after I said no?
3 attorney answers
Think about it, you may need an extra day in the future, and you would be more likely to get it if you do not make a fuss about this trip.
The children would also likely be told that they couldn't take the vacation because of you, not a good feeling,
Your children will be better off if the two of you get along.
I understand you to say that your X wants to exercise a vacation right excessively, i.e., for 3 extra days one of which is on your custodial weekend. You can seek a Court order to change the vacation to an acceptable one, but that's a lot of work and (if a lawyer is involved) attorney's fees for what seems to be a minimal interference with your weekend custodial time for your child to have a vacation. I'd work it out; perhaps you can be given some additional custody time.
You state that it is legal. But your posts suggests it is not court ordered. You need to convert this into an enforceable order by having a judge sign it.
But in the end you probably ought to let the children go. I know you may not like it but you need to be able to answer, why in the 18 year childhood of your children is this not in their best interest?
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