Me and my ex have a legal judgment order that we have agreed on and signed. For vacation it states that we each get two different 7 day vacations a year and have to give a 30 written notice. Also the vacation cannot be on the other parents custodial weekend to ensure that we don’t go more than 10 days without seeing the children. My ex just messaged me about a vacation that is going to be nine days and on the 10th day they will be back but it is on my custodial weekend. I said no, but they said they are going anyways. What can I do?
You state that it is legal. But your posts suggests it is not court ordered. You need to convert this into an enforceable order by having a judge sign it.
But in the end you probably ought to let the children go. I know you may not like it but you need to be able to answer, why in the 18 year childhood of your children is this not in their best interest?
I understand you to say that your X wants to exercise a vacation right excessively, i.e., for 3 extra days one of which is on your custodial weekend. You can seek a Court order to change the vacation to an acceptable one, but that's a lot of work and (if a lawyer is involved) attorney's fees for what seems to be a minimal interference with your weekend custodial time for your child to have a vacation. I'd work it out; perhaps you can be given some additional custody time.
Think about it, you may need an extra day in the future, and you would be more likely to get it if you do not make a fuss about this trip.
The children would also likely be told that they couldn't take the vacation because of you, not a good feeling,
Your children will be better off if the two of you get along.
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