You cannot drop it, as it can only be vacated by court order. You can motion the court for this, but if the case is still pending, the district attorney will oppose the motion, and the judge will most probably deny your request.
Theoretically you have victim's rights, such as under Marsy's Law, but unfortunately there exists an unofficial presumption that domestic violence victims do not know what is best for them.
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You can make a motion to do such, which are typically denied. However, there are ways to make your motion more successful. One item is to have the DA on board, but you will need more than that. Your boyfriend will need to cooperate. I suggest contacting an attorney to review the facts and develop a strategy. Many reputable attorneys offer a free consultation. I suggest meeting with at least one soon while the facts are still fresh in your mind.
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