A name change requires a court order. For instructions how to change your child's name in California (without an attorney). see:
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Frank W. Chen is licensed to practice law in the State of California. The information presented here is general in nature and is not intended, nor should be construed, as legal advice. This posting does not create any attorney-client relationship with the author. For specific advice about your particular situation, consult your own attorney.
Your statements indicate that a Name Change of your baby is not the real issue.
If you ex takes you to court, in a Paternity action, you can ask for a name change by and through the Petition to Establish a Parental Relationship. If he takes you to Court, regarding a baby, it seems unlikely that a name change will be granted. You could seek a request to hyphenate the name, using his and your name, that is a common request.
You have only recently exited DCFS, it seems premature to start a new round of fighing. Additionally, since you have been to DCFS, the court may question your motives, as well as your ongoing sobriety.
If you are in need of support, you can seek the assistance of Child Support Services.
Currently, there are no orders regarding custody, so you are not obligated to go to his house.
You might want to let things settle down for the time being, and focus on your sobriety and your baby.
Please note that this answer does not constitute legal advice, and should not be relied on, as each situation is fact specific, and it is not possible to evaluate a legal problem without a comprehensive consultation and review of all the facts and court pleadings filed in the case. This answer does not create an attorney-client relationship
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