This makes no sense. Do not allow "father" within earshot. Contact an attorney now. In the mean time, if the father shows up, call the police and your attorney.
If and when the baby comes whome with bruises on her thigh and blood in her diaper you need to contact CPS (Child Protective Services ) and LVMPD Abuse and Neglect.
If your lawyer can't make himself heard in court, then perhaps you need a new lawyer.
The only way to change a judge's mind is to have the appeals court change it for him/her via a writ or a reversal on appeal or new evidence which would necessitate a new hearing.
You might look into filing a complaint against the judge if you think that he is violating one of the judicial canons such as not devoting enough time to your case. This would probably be a last resort. Complaints against judges are not based upon not liking the decision, there has to be a rule broken by the judge.