Restraining Orders between the parents means dad will not get vistitation.
I assume you two have never been married, paternity needs to be determined before anything more can occur.
Also it is important to note that when he is restrained, the family should not be communicating for him. Threats or otherwise. So, ask them to stop, and call the police if they do not.
Custody is decision making in Wisconsin. Placement is having the child. So, they have not likely hired an attorney since they do not even know the terms to use.
I am sure that if you have been naughty, then so has he. I wouldn't worry too much about what will happen, just live the best you can, and be honest about what has happened (both ways). You will do fine in the end.
Don't stress yourself out about this. It will just make it worse.
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