My country has paid for my PhD (about 250K) and yes, my expertise is in the skills list. However, I have an American boyfriend, he has 3 kids and I have 1(j2). We have lived together for 1 year and will be 2 years when I finish my program. We plan to get married but not sure why (question number 2 here!) to not upset Visa people. Going back for 2 years would be stressing for kids, we are a family since his kids live with us 50% of the time, they love each other and consider us their family. Can I make a case of this? Does getting married and having more children help by any means? Is there any way that out family situation really helps? His family (kids) can't move because they have a mom here who won't allow it. Nobody speaks language of my country either...Any advice is appreciated!