He had a lawyer and I had to fight by myself. I didn't know the law and I feel like he won due to that. I have witnesses to prove I was a great parent but the damage was already done
I did not really see a question but hang in there in their lives and do everything you can to get a family law attorney and perhaps you can get the orders modified later.
Unfortunately, "unfair decision" is not a valid ground to modify a final court order once the 30-day period for a new trial or appeal has passed. The modification must be based on a "material and substantial change of circumstances" since the date of the last final order. You need to consult with an experienced family law attorney.
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Often if you don't have an attorney and the other person does you lose. The attorney knows the way to put on testimony and witnesses to tell the judge their story. You don't, so the judge doesn't hear your side. However, if you chose to represent yourself you still have to follow the law. You didn't mention what your visitation is. It is important that you exercise your visitation and stay in the kids lives. You need to get a copy of the court order that gave him custody and take it to an attorney. The attorney will help you figure out what you can do - or not do.
I recommend that you talk to an attorney in your area.
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