Your friends are right - you should consult an attorney but consulting an attorney doesn't mean you have to "launch a missile." If you want to purchase a house for your own, then the attorney can write an agreement for you and your husband to sign, indicating that this is your house and that he makes no claim to it. If you want him to keep the other house, that could be included although you'll want to think long and hard about whether it's smart to relinquish your right or claim to the equity in that property. But, again, consult with an experienced family attorney in your area. Make it clear that you're not seeking a divorce. All you want to do is ensure that the new property is yours. Your husband should not take this as an attack on him but rather a way to keep matters uncomplicated.
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If both of you retain reasonable and experienced family law attorneys to negotiate an agreement that accomplishes both of your goals, there is no reason to have a battle. Many divorces are resolved amicably if the parties have either reached an agreement or are committed to moving forward without litigation and excessive fees and costs. Collaborative divorces are one such way to accomplish this goal. Check the Internet or your local bar association for a referral.
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