Thanks for your question. Since I am an attorney, I cannot ethically give you specific legal advice on your situation, since you are not my client, but I can only provide you with general information that you may find helpful. The best advice that I can recommend to you is to contact a local elder care attorney that can work with you on your unique situation.
Generally speaking, as long as your grandmother is still having moments of competency, she can execute a power of attorney to make you or your brother her “attorney-in-fact”. If this document is properly executed, it will give you the authority to manage your grandmother’s affairs without the intervention of other family members. Or you may wish to seek a formal guardianship, but the drawback to this approach is that it is expensive and requires the continuous supervision of the court.
You need to consult with an Elder Care attorney as well, because if her home is her homestead, it may be protected. As long as your grandmother continues to express the desire to return to the home, it may not have to be sold. There is not enough information in your question to be able to give you general advice on this — you really need to consult an attorney.
Taking care of an elderly person is very strenuous — both emotionally and physically. There are resources available to help you with home care, but you really should have an independent assessment of your grandmother’s condition and if she can be cared for at home.
Best of luck,
Shawn C. Newman, Esq.
Attorney At Law
1881 NE 26th Street, Suite 212E
Wilton Manors, FL 33305