You certainly need to speak with an attorney about serving your overseas spouse. You have not stated the country in which she is located, therefore, I cannot advise you as to whether service under the Hague Convention can be made upon her. Please read my short blog entry for more insight into the service issues you may face, and your possible solutions.
You dont state which country she is in. The question of proper notice comes into play. Seek a local attorney to discuss getting the process done.
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You should be able to get divorced. Contact a divorce attorney.
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