If proper procedures are followed, neither the appearance nor consent of the opposing spouse is needed in a dissolution of marriage proceeding in WA.
The mandatory pattern family law forms are available for free at the court's website: http://www.courts.wa.gov/forms/ . That site has links to instructions.
WA LawHelp provides free self-help guides on many day-to-day legal issues. Its website is: http://www.washingtonlawhelp.org/WA/index.cfm . This site has links to organizations that provide no or low fee help.
The bigger WA counties have family law facilitators whose offices are in the building for the county's superior court. The facilitators do not give legal advice but will help people to fill out forms.
There are some organizations that provide attorney's services for low or no fee. The organizations have screening criteria.
A disputed family law proceeding is much more complex than just filling out forms. In many cases, it may be cost effective to hire an attorney.
In WA, a spouse with less or without financial means may ask the court to order the spouse with the financial means to pay all or some of the legal expenses of the spouse with less financial resources.
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