I would suggest you tell the judge what happened and voice your concern and displeasure with the mediator. If you do not agree with the mediator's recommendations you can request the matter be set for trial. Depending on the situation you could also request a 3111 evaluation but this will cost money. The good thing about the 3111 evaluation is that it is more in depth and depending on the child's age, the child will be interviewed and their preferences may be given some weight in the recommendation.
It would be best for you to consult with and hire an attorney. These situations regarding child custody and visitation are very complex. Many attorneys, including my office, offer free consultations. Good luck.
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Look at the Court website and look at the local rules. I think the rule is 5.31 or 5.32 for filing a complaint about a mediator. You also need to request further mediation, with a different mediator.
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