What would likely be best for the child is for you and him to learn how to communicate, and this can be done through co-parenting therapy. This requires two parents committed to the idea that the child benefits from two parents who are not fighting all the time and who can work together for the child's best interest.
If by 50/50 joint custody you mean equal custodial time then at a minium the two of you need to be able to exchange information about school and activities and health issues.
If by 50/50 joint custody you mean that each of you have to agree for decisions related to the child and you can't that is going to be a problem and you and him need to figure out a way to work together.
I suggest you talk to a local attorney and try to get a sense of how judges in Robeson County view joint custody decisions because if you and the father can't agree, a local judge will decide what schedule is in the best interest of your child.
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Regardless of whether you and the child's father have joint legal custody or if one of you has sole legal custody, your child still needs to have both parents in his/her life. This means that the 2 of you need to learn how to deal with each other in a civil fashion. My suggestion is that the 2 of you schedule some time with a child psychologist and receive some training on how to effectively communicate with each other.
With respect to the question of legal custody, even if one of you is awarded "sole" legal custody that person should always confer with the other parent when it comes to making important decisions for the child.
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