You certainly have rights to see and be with your children, as does, of course, your wife. If there is a case pending in the court for the divorce you can go in and tell the court that your wife is refusing to cooperate with you on the holidays and ask them to step in and set up a schedule. It is likely too late to do that now for this Thanksgiving, but you can address the upcoming winter holidays. The bottom line is this: if you and your wife are unable to work out a schedule the two of you can live with, the court will do it for you, but it is up to you (or whoever has a complaint regarding the visitation) to bring this issue to the attention of the court. If you are able, you should speak with an experienced family law attorney. Good luck.
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