There are too many forms, with too many variables ... to give you an 'exact' list.
You start with an I-130 & 2 G-325 forms ... plus documents.
Read the instructions closely, or hire an attorney ... which would be a very wise thing to do.
I am sorry about your son ... but it will make no difference in speeding up the process.
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I agree with my colleagues. There are too many forms that need to be filed at various stages of the process to list here. But as stated earlier, file the I130 and a G325A for each of you. Good luck to you.
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A lawyer will help speed this up. Doing this on your own can slow it down if you do not know each working part between USCIS, The NVC and consulate. There are many nonprofits that help for free or low cost. Find a nonprofit attorney.