We have two kids. Last year we had a full-time nanny, this year we had a part-time nanny and pre-kindergarten expenses. The cost is exactly the same as last year. My ex-husband states he does not want to pay all of the costs, specifically before-school care.
He has not provided his reasoning to me. His lawyer states that it is my problem to manage the kids in the morning. However, I cannot get them to 2 different locations and still get myself to work on time -- not without another person to drive one of them. This is the same amount of childcare as last year. However, we had the nanny to take the second child to her activities, while I took the first child to school and myself to work.
Our incomes and childcare needs are the same. Can he just not pay? What can I do? Also, he cancelled his life insurance policy --can I/should I pursue this?Thanks for the responses! More info to clarify: the 50% for childcare is in addition to child support, which is taken out of his paychecks via SDU. The divorce was finalized in December 2009. He wants to go to mediation over this, but I do not. I am not going to 'change my mind' about our factual childcare needs. Any thoughts about just going straight to court? My decrees says, "if a party refuses to participate in mediation, the parties may return to court." However, I can't afford a lawyer. I have no significant savings, and I'm not interested in going into debt over this. I do not qualify for low-income services due to my salary, but I still live paycheck to paycheck. Should I lump it all together, the life insurance issue and this childcare thing? Or should I address them separately?
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