Your ex wants a court to make changes to your parenting plan, your ex cannot unilaterally announce changes. Your ex isn't the final authority, the court is. And this question is exactly why judges are so loathe to open up parenting plans to modification. If your ex asks the court to modify the plan, you are within your rights to ask for modifications to the plan as well.
If there are conditions on your participation, use Google Scholar to look up Marriage of Possinger that deals with progressive changes in parenting plans.
And assemble that proof while you are at it. Hope this helps. Elizabeth Powell
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