You might consider hiring an attorney to pen a letter on your behalf. That sometimes can get attention and action where it’s no skin off the site owner's chin. I wouldn't put too much stock in the webmaster as speaking for the site owner.
You could bring a suit--on what grounds and whether you could win is unclear on the limited facts proposed.
Keep in mind it may be that the site is not obligated by law or circumstance to remove your name as disconcerting as that might be. I've posted a few comments I wish I hadn't myself......
Recommend you sit down with a Bay Area attorney and strategize a bit--perhaps with more detailed revelation of the facts, the attorney will be able to chart a more clear way-ahead.
Best of luck to you.
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You probably won't get it removed. Websites enjoy substantial immunity from lawsuits. Congress has passed laws that protect websites from such lawsuits. You can file a defamation suit but it has to be against the person who posted it. Once you have the defamatory judgment then the website may but still does not have to remove it but it appears that many do because it was determined defamatory...trust me when I say I tried this with a major website... I had done my homework and knew they were immune but tried to appeal to the fact that their website works better when it remains free of defamatory or false or concocted information but they refused and quoted the law back to me that they were exempt from legal action...
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I agree with Mr. Green. Websites enjoy tremendous protections legally and things like this are very difficult to remove. They will unleash their lawyers on you, so be prepared to shell out big bucks. Also, are you sure this isn't someone with the same name that lives in the same county/city? If you are able to sustain a lawsuit, what economic damages are you able to prove to the court with admissible evidence that you suffered as a direct and actual cause of this post? For the most part the law follows the basketball analogy "no harm, no foul".
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