You need to hire an attorney to assist you.
Proving step mom destroyed will is a difficult process.
Proving the will is loss and should be restored is also difficult.
This forum cannot replace an attorney relationship to guide you through this difficult time.
The answer given does not imply that an attorney-client relationship has been established and your best course of action is to have legal representation in this matter.
I whole-heartedly agree with the first answer. Even just from the facts you've described this is a complicated case, which almost certainly means that it's even more complicated than that. You will definitely need an experienced probate attorney - and one who has experience with will contests and litigation against other claimants to an estate - in order to get things resolved. This is definitely not a matter for you to try and handle on your own.
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An attorney is absolutely essential in this type of case. I agree with the others
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