See an attorney immeidately. If the employer is not depositing your share (as opposed to the employer contribution) into your 401(K), and it not paying it to you, then there is a serious problem going. You can try and work this out with your employer, but if the event that they do not do the right thing, you really should talk to someone who does wage and hour employment work.
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