I am not even sure there is such a thing as defamation per se but if there was this would not be it.
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There is a such thing as defamation per se. If the false statements of fact impute criminal activity, the statements may be considered defamation per se. The damages are presumed in defamation per se actions. You should contact a local defamation to review all of the communications and to advise you regarding your rights.
Defamation requires a communication of defamatory material to a third party. Your recitation suggests only communications with you. Unpleasant, yes; defamation, no.
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I agree that you should contact an attorney in NH who understands defamation. You are really talking about libel per se. Normally, there is a different standard of proof in "per se" claims from standard libel. There are rules that apply, so you should contact a NH lawyer to explain all of the facts. to him or her The real problem comes when you want to seek damages. If the person is judgment proof, then there is not much you can do. Having tried to obtain an injunction against someone who did something similar, albeit not on the internet, and having the judge say that unless there is a threat to public safety, like yelling fire in a theater, the court is not going to enjoin free speech. The remedy is a suit for damages, and since this is an intentional act, and normal liability insurance will not apply, unless the person has reachable assets, it could all be a waste of time. Contact a lawyer right away.
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