1) My ex-husband who is deployed has signed a power of attorney to his current new spouse who wants to visit my son for school lunches. She has been insulting me and making things very difficult for my parenting, even talking about me negatively around my son. I have taken her off of the visiting list at his school but she has pressed my ex-husband to sign a notarized document asking the school to put her back on the visitation list. This, combined with her having power of attorney, does she have the right to go to have lunch with my son at school? I have primary physical custody, but joint legal although he is rarely involved. I've had to beg him to spend his visitation with our son anyway. He rarely calls Lucas. It seems like he is changing only to accommodate a woman I don't feel comfortable around my son.
A power of attorney does not grant her the right to assume his visitation, but it would be a bad idea for you to refuse contact unless you can prove the new wife is a threat to the child's physical well-being. The court views these things from the perspective of the child. The new wife is necessarily part of the child's life now, and your refusal to facilitate that relationship can be harmful to the child. Granted, her continued insults present a problem, but the father should get that under control. If he refuses, then you have a defense. But this will look bad to the judge if it looks like the adults are acting like children. I suggest you start supporting the father's new relationship and allowing the contact. That just might improve the situation and everyone wins, especially the child.
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