If disabled and an adult then a guardian and conservatorship needs to filed in probate court. This does not give you custody but authority over the financial and medical affairs if the disabled person .
In addition, you can petition for child support for your disabled adult son. However, the disability needs to have started prior to his reaching the age of majority. The case in Alabama that allows this is called Ex Parte Brewington. Another consideration is whether or not your son is receiving SSI and Medicaid. If so, you would need a carefully drafted special needs trust into which this potential support can be paid so as to avoid any issues with his SSI and Medicaid benefits. Finally, the case in Alabama that allowed the court to order post-minority support for adult children to attend college was recently overturned. However, the court did not consider their prior decision in Ex Parte Brewington regarding adult disabled children. If you choose to go to court to seek this support, your child's father may appeal the case.
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