A written stipulation approved (signed ) by the judge is our best protection, but if broken will still be subject to a contempt motion.
Please only call me if your case is in California as I am only licensed here and laws of other states may vary. I approach trials and issues from a legal and common sense approach, This is how the majority of judges I have appeared before in 40 years also make decisions. I do not intend by my advice to enter an attorney client relationship and in most cases advise to obtain legal representation. Sometimes if you can not afford it a consultation or limited scope representation is available. As an experienced attorney I can tell you, judges can be impatient, hate emotional arguments and over exagerations or lies. A brief outline of the problems and desired solutions is always best and I often in limited scope representations advise clients on how to proceed at time of hearing or trial and my fees are considerably less when I do not appear in court as it takes much less of my time.
Two grown adults should be able to come to a reasonable accommodation, notwithstanding the "letter" of the order, for summer schedules. Your text agreement is not technically enforceable because a judge didn't approve the change; however, it is evidence that there was an intent between the parties.
You can file a complaint for modification of the parenting/visitation schedule. But I have to say, its a long and expensive way around a simple comity your ex should be willing to make for the sake of the children.--and the Court will probably not look favorably upon the father's conduct in this instance.
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The text message is not a binding modification. He can argue as to the authenticity and say that he never wrote it and that it was spoofed and most likely is not admissible. If you have problems with the agreement then you need to move to have it modified to include all possible events. Discuss it with your attorney.
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