Contact Bill Eddy/High Conflict Institute here in San Diego. Bill is/was a family law attorney who has developed HCI to deal with family law litigants with personality disorders which lead to high conflict dissolution/child custody matters. There are a variety of legal and mental health professionals, including retired judges, who aid the HCI.
As a judge once said about poronography, I can't define it, but I know it when I see it. Such tactics are common in matrimonial litigation, particularly when one spouse (usually the husband) controls the money. As an attorney you can't do much about it except slug it out with the offender. That's one reason I don't handle matrimonial cases.
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