It is always best to be represented by legal counsel when appearing in court, but the decision is yours. The court can't force you to have a lawyer present. I think you may have misunderstood what your lawyer was telling you. The judge typically hears some types of family law cases, and the Friend of the Court referee others. I would speak to your attorney again, and get clarification. I am quite sure your attorney did not counsel you to engage in an illegal act.
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If you were a recipient of public assistance benefits, you cannot waive any support that may be owed to DHS or the State of Michigan. As you know, the father must consent. I believe what your lawyer might be telling you has to do with the court believing you are agreeing to waive support which your child is entitled to receive. Your lawyer may know something about the court or about your situation which might influence the court to decline the request if the "agreement" is disclosed. More information is needed to properly evaluate your question. As Ms. Stuart-Fink stated, it is always preferable to have an attorney's representation.
Neil M. Colman
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