I have been to court 4 times now and this last time my childs father appeared. This was to change the last name of my child. (Father has a child support order, which is severely inconsistent, and has also made no effort to visit with him in almost 7 years.) The father and I have agreed for me to drop some past support and he will agree to the name change. Can we just agree on the name change in court then after, go to FOC and take care of the support issue? My lawyer had mentioned this to me, but said our "agreement" cannot be told to the judge. Is it legal for us to do this? And do I have to have my lawyer there if we have come to an agreement?