See my AVVO Legal Guide on Domestic Violence. Sorry to say, but your ex sounds pretty weird. Talk to a DV advocate at the King County Courthouse. It's free, and they will help you get an appropriate Order of Protection or Anti-Harassment Order.
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If your boyfriend is making an allegation that you are harassing him, you should make sure that the reality of the situation is well documented. You should keep screen shots of all text messages and save or print copies of emails. You should also save all of the voice mails. Finally, you should keep copies of your phone bills so you can show that you have not been the one contacting him. In terms of protecting yourself, you have a couple of options. You can report his behavior to the police and provide them copies of the texts, emails and voicemails. Depending on how much he has contacted you and what exactly he has said, there may be grounds for some charge to be filed against him. You could also seek a protection order in King County District Court.