I have two children by the same father. The last time that he saw them was when the oldest was 9 months old and the youngest was born. Neither of them know him and in custody court it was ruled that any and all contact with him be through a safe visitation program due to family violence. When we appeared in court for custody he flipped out. After the episode in custody court I went to get a restraining order against him and which time I was told replying to his conversations and accepting phone calls would be considered communication and not harassment... I have not accepted any of the sporadic communication from him in the three years that have passed. He never signed up for safe visitation. It has been over 3 years since I have had any contact with him. I literally do not know this person anymore. I concerned about him wanting to reenter my children's lives however I do not know if I am legally bound to accept his communication. I do not want to waver from the original court documents that say not to have any contact with him outside of a safe visitation program as far as the children but am I bound to answer his calls and communication?
Follow the court order. He has a copy of it too. He knows what to do if he wants to see the kids.
Block his number if you have a hard time not answering.
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You are probably not obligated to speak with him, and probably not prohibited from all communication. If he shows up at SAFE when he's supposed to and you do not you will be violating the court order. The only easy to know if he's going I'd for him too communicate it. You should have a lawyer read your order and advise based on that.
Take your court orders to family law counsel to go over with you and explain your duties and responsibilities and his rights. Follow the court order. You also can file to modify the order to no visitation and no contact due to passage of time. If the orders say not to have contact outside of a safe visitation program then act accordingly as is in your child's best interests consistent with the orders. If the present court orders say not to have any contact outside of a safe visitation program, then you cannot be bound to answer his calls and communication. But nothing here substitutes for counsel looking at your orders and advising you.
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