An ex-girlfriend of mine who lives in another state recently got a restraining order against me do I have to appear in front of a judge to contest it if I live in another state? She lives in Massachusetts I live in Northern New Hampshire. Because of work constraints it is very difficult for me to make the four-hour drive down to the courthouse and I was wondering if I had to appear at all or if I had to show up in case a bench warrant would be issued against me.
No bench warrant will be issued against you if you don't appear, but it is likely that the restraining order will be extended. Remember restraining orders can be enforced in your state even though issued in Massachusetts. That includes violations of the restraining order through third-party contact. That means if she alleges that you have tried to contact her through another person you may be liable for violation
This is not legal advice and is not intended to create an attorney-client relationship. You should speak to an attorney for further information.
I agree with the previous attorney, however, service requirements for restraining orders are a bit more rigorous than other civil actions so make sure you were served properly.
I agree with both of my contemporaries but would add that there really is no complete history here in which to properly even begin to advise you. How did you come to know about the action in the first place? If you have notice and were served, you will probably need to appear in order to preserve your rights. You can always hire an attorney in the adjudicating jurisdiction to represent you or request a continuance if they did everything right and you are subject to the courts reach.
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