A Court order is a Court order. You are obligated to comply with the orders of the Court. If you believe that the situation is such that the visitation order should be different, then you need to file a motion to modify the order. If you can conviince the Court that a change in the visitation order is in your son's best interest, then the requirements will be changed.
At age 14, you son may, provided he wants to, have input into the Court's decision making process. It will probably require a guardian ad litem to be appointed to represent him - but he may talk to the court about his concerns and desires. Don't think this means that the Court will leave the decision up to your son, even at age 14, that would be inappropriate.
Talk with a family law attorney in your area. I hope that you are able to obtain an appropriate resolution of this issue.
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