Not going to waste your time here. You need to go see an experienced family law attorney. The attorney is going to need more facts, to be able to determine what if anything can realistically be done to help you. Make sure that just because something can legally be done that you don't throw good money after bad if you have little to no hope of actually getting financial help.
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I agree with the prior post. I'm sorry you're having to go through this. You would bring a motion to enforce the Decree asking for all the relief you want based on the facts you presented. You could ask for the court to sign the Quit Claim Deed on the property and ask for a judgment for everything he didn't pay. Best bet would be to list all that he didn't pay and show that it is noncollectable, so you get the relief you're seeking, i.e. sign over property. You would have to serve him with notice of a hearing and all the pleadings. You may have to get authorization from the court to allow an alternative method of service. Very complicated, but maybe worth it. You may also ask for attorney's fees and reimbursement of what you've had to pay.
You may also want to talk to a CPA/tax attorney about getting relief from the IRS. Possibly an innocent spouse waiver or some compromise.
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